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Freedom 15 · The Not My Daughter Blueprint
Teach her to be her own protectorThe 6 vital skills most young women are never taught, practiced together in a few hours, over one weekend.
On her own in a new place, she's most vulnerable.
15 real-world lessons. 6 core safety skills. A few hours together.
She'll see trouble coming and carry herself so it passes her by. If it doesn't, she'll have your permission and the skills to make the right decision and the right move. You don't need to know any of this yourself. I'll show you both how.
Your free guide starts the talk. The Blueprint adds the complete guide, a 45-minute webinar, how-to videos, and short drills you do together.
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See the training for yourself
She won't just hear what to do. She'll practice it.
Here's one of the actual defensive responses you'll work through together. Step away from danger, create distance, and use your surroundings to gain an advantage while deciding what to do next.
No fighting background required. I demonstrate the skill, then you practice it together.
Get the Blueprint — $37A real lesson from the Blueprint: the Basic Defensive Response around a vehicle.
The gap every parent recognizes
“Be safe” isn't a skill she can use.
You can remind her to be careful a hundred times. But will she recognize warning signs, hold her boundaries, and know what to do under pressure? Those things can be taught and practiced. We teach first aid, CPR, and driving. No one teaches this, and no one taught you how to teach her. That isn't your failure. It's a gap a few hours together can close.
“A 1% effort can make you 100% more safe.”
Small, high-value actions that fit her life. Confidence without paranoia.
She may not need any of this next week, or next year, or ever. But she could need one of these skills tomorrow. This is a few hours, once, so she has them before she needs them.
Where this fits
Not a pamphlet. Not a lifestyle.
The specialists
Martial artists, shooters, and operators each teach what they know, and most ask you to live like them: the gym, the gear, the constant vigilance.
This
A few hours, done together, built around her life. A system that plays to her strengths and covers her gaps.
This guide has been a great way to open up conversations I want to have with my daughter. She's not even in high school yet, but it raises situations I want her thinking about now. We went through the whole guide together, discussing each section, and it helped me learn things she'd been struggling with that I didn't even know about. I highly recommend this guide for every young lady and her parent.— Erin S., mother · Private training with her daughter, built on this material
A simple, guided path to capability
A few hours to learn it.
A few hours to learn it.
A lifetime to use it.
Three steps you can do together, spread over a weekend or at your own pace. I provide the teaching and demonstrations. You help her apply them to her life.
Read & discuss · Complete Action Guide
Give her a safety mindset—and a plan.
She begins recognizing where she's vulnerable, what choices matter, and what she can do about them.
Start with the Core 6. Talk through situations she may face on her own and find out what she already knows. The guide leads the conversation with practical actions and questions; the full 15 lessons are there whenever you want to go deeper.
Why it's doable: Focus on the six essentials first. No lectures to prepare or curriculum to invent.
Watch & understand · 45-minute seminar
Teach her to see the decision points.
She learns to recognize danger sooner, understand her options, and make a better decision before the situation gets worse.
Watch my Victim or Victress webinar together. I'll explain the One-Breath Check and how the S.M.A.A.R.T.S. safety system works as a whole, the same system I teach to law enforcement, military, and executive protection pros. Then we'll go through three real incidents, a deadly rideshare mistake, a home invasion by a fake delivery driver, and a young woman fighting off an attacker at a gym, and find the decision points where seeing it sooner or acting differently could have changed the outcome.
Why it's doable: I explain the framework and work through the cases. You learn it together—no expertise required.
Watch, practice & demonstrate · How-to videos
See what she can actually do.
She goes beyond knowing the right answer: she practices the actions and demonstrates the Core 6.
Spend an hour or two following the embedded how-to videos. Practice assertiveness, recognizing danger, the Basic Defensive Response, and readiness. Time how quickly she can get her flashlight or inert practice pepper spray into her hand from where she normally carries it. The standard is the 3-2-1: three to five seconds or less, without digging through her bag. Make a few changes, then try again. Use the Core 6 Check to see what she's learned and what needs more work.
Why it's effective: You can watch her demonstrate the skills—rather than just hoping she remembers the conversation.
The timed drill, in my own house
My wife Lauren's first try getting her tool into her hand took 6.5 seconds. After we made a few changes to how she carried and drew it, she hit 0.64. That's the same drill your daughter runs in the Blueprint.
By the end: you've had the important conversations, learned how the system works, practiced the skills, and seen what she can demonstrate.
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And when the weekend is over?
Make the skills last—without another training schedule.
The six Opportunity Training Exercises turn ordinary moments into quick practice: the next unexpected knock, a stoplight, a walk through a parking lot, or a moment when something doesn't feel right.
Run a safe drill when an opportunity naturally appears. Try it again days, months, or years later. Challenge each other, compare what you noticed, and keep improving—without adding a new activity to the calendar. If something is genuinely dangerous, act to get safe; don't treat it as a drill.
- Seconds at a time—not another hour-long lesson
- Practices awareness, decisions, and readiness in real life
- Works with a parent, sibling, friend, or independently
Meaningful. Challenging. Fun.
The practical result
Six core skills. One system she can use anywhere.
Not fifteen disconnected safety tips. These six capabilities work together, whether she's on campus, at work, traveling, or living on her own.
01
Mindset
She knows she has the right and responsibility to protect herself.
02
Awareness
She knows what warning signs to look for and can name them quickly.
03
Avoidance
She looks like the one they skip. When she says no, they know she means it.
04
Readiness
She carries an appropriate tool accessibly and knows when to prepare it.
05
Tactics
She practices creating distance, improving her position, and choosing her next move.
06
Skill
She gets her tool in hand in 3 to 5 seconds or less, without drawing attention, then keeps improving.
The 15 real-world lessons put these skills to work in situations that come with life on her own: protecting her drink, rideshare rules, spotting a tail, never going to a second location, the spare phone, the digital predator, stopping the bleed, and more.
Your instructor
I've already done the teaching.
I'm Trevor Thrasher, a husband and father first, with more than three decades across Army Special Forces, law enforcement and SWAT, and counter-terrorism work for a U.S. government agency.
10 years teaching at 88 Tactical in Omaha. 30,000+ people trained, thousands of them young women.
I built this for families who don't have years to train. You don't have to teach like a professional instructor. You learn and practice alongside her.
Thank you again, super helpful, very effective skill building and empowering for both of us. Even a teenager, when we usually get eye rolls, was pulling the 3-2-1 reaction time to defense mode on me throughout the day.— Karla Franzluebbers, parent · Feedback from private instruction. The 3-2-1 drill: a three-count to get a defensive tool in hand.
My whole family has trained with Trevor and will continue to train with him. He is my go-to resource for civilian safety and professional first responder tactics.— Major Jared P., U.S. Army Special Forces, father of three
Everything you need, nothing to figure out
It's all in the $37 Blueprint.
One complete path from conversation to practiced capability, for about the cost of an inexpensive lunch.
- Complete Action Guide15 lessons, the Core 6, discussion prompts, and deeper resources. A PDF with QR codes and direct links to every video. No login.
- 45-minute Victim or Victress webinarReal incidents, the One-Breath Check, and the system behind the lessons. Unlocks with a code sent to the email you signed up with.
- Embedded how-to videos + Core 6 CheckSee, practice, and demonstrate the skills—including the timed defensive-tool drill.
- Six Opportunity Training ExercisesShort repeatable practice for everyday life, as a printable PDF.
- First 72 Hours plan + printable checklistsHelp her apply the training in a new environment.
Good questions, simple answers
Questions parents ask
Who is this for?
Any young woman from about 15 to 50, and the parent, grandparent, or guardian teaching her. A few lessons are age-sensitive, so you choose which ones to cover with a younger daughter. If she has already moved out, run it over a video call or do the drills together when you visit. You don't need a background in safety, only the willingness to sit down together.
Is this all about fighting?
No. Most of it is seeing trouble early and not being the one they pick. The main hands-on skill is getting whatever tool she chooses to carry into her hand fast, and you practice that with a stopwatch, not a sparring partner. It builds capability, not fear. No gym or fighting background needed.
I don't know any of this myself. Can we still do it?
You don't need to. The webinar and the video lessons do the teaching, and each drill tells you exactly what to say and do. You learn alongside her.
Will she actually do it with me?
The practice is hands-on, the lessons are short, and the six Opportunity Training Exercises take seconds. Most families find the drills fun.
How much time does it take?
A few hours, spread over a weekend: an evening for the webinar, a couple of hours with the guide, and a couple of hours of drills. Or take it in pieces. One lesson and one drill still change what she can do.
For her next chapter
Give her more than another reminder to “be safe.”
Give her a system she'll understand, skills she'll practice, and a way to keep them sharp as she becomes more independent.
$37
That's about the cost of an inexpensive lunch. For it you get a few hours with your daughter, taught by someone who has spent his career on this, and skills she can use for life.
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